Thursday, June 25
Do you remember the first time your child exclaimed, “I DO!”? Letting you know that they could feed themselves, or walk upstairs without holding your hand. Those moments are often bittersweet, watching their independence emerge while also letting go of “what was.”
As a parent, life is filled with those moments. The moments that your child’s strong-willed, opinionated, one of a kind personality shows itself. Like when your child is finally old enough to sign up for soccer, she plays a few years, and then suddenly she chooses band.
I was a soccer mom. We had the routine down, orange slices were loaded into the cooler, and she chose band? She thought that band “sounded cool” so she printed her name on the sign-up form in school, without even asking me. I don’t even know how to be a band mom. Did she even think about me?
I could remind her that the risk of losing her spot on the travel soccer team may not be worth switching to band because it “sounded cool.” But I could also encourage her to take the risk on something new because she may never reach her God-given potential without risk.
Over the years there have been so many moments in parenting where I have been incredibly proud of my daughters for choosing the path uniquely for them. There have also been moments where I would have chosen a different path for them – different activities, a different friend group, or a different way of thinking altogether.
The Bible is filled with characters who tried to veer from the path that God had for them. When I think of Jonah, for instance, Jonah did everything he could to escape from the plan God had for his life. He literally ran! And yet God was relentless in His pursuit of Jonah.
I can trust that God will do the same for my children, they belong to Him.
“‘For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future,’” Jeremiah 29:11.
He knows what path is best for them and I can trust that He will relentlessly pursue their hearts. So rather than control, I can provide guardrails and encourage them to be all that they were created to be.
Today, let’s remember the pressure’s off. I am not responsible for creating a perfect life for my children. He is a good God! And His plans for their lives are so much better than any plans we could dream up.
Deby Fabrazzo, Youth Director
Deby oversees our High School and College ministries. She loves creating environments and opportunities for students to meet Jesus and experience His grace in their everyday lives. It’s especially personal to Deby who is a mom to three teenage daughters. She has been married to her high school sweetheart Mark for 21 years.
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